Therapists often listen to words, to stories, to psychic histories and do not listen to the actual communications that the client is offering.
Begin your relationship with the realization that the client you meet in therapy is not fully rational, or fully capable of responding in an adult manner to the demands of the specific frustrating situations.
The best therapists function as sources of support, inspiration, and motivation. The essential ingredients are the therapist’s genuine awareness of, respect for, and willingness to be responsive to the needs of the client. Clients do not enter therapy to be lectured, ignored or controlled; they enter therapy to be understood and assisted in their attempts… [Read More]
There are many alternatives in every situation, yet the neurotic believes “It’s got to be this or that”! Reacting to the good and the bad in life, and dealing with it creatively, is the real joy in life. “Deal with what emerges” is always the primary rule. Providing the client with alternatives sets the stage… [Read More]
Emotions are not logical, rational or conscious, but they are a natural and useful form of subconscious communication. They tell us how we feel about something even when we are consciously unaware of how we feel. The subconscious is the feeling mind, and emotional reactions are not necessarily rational when they are from the subconscious… [Read More]